Sexuality & Empowerment ft. Charlie Henderson


About the Episode

I invited Charlie Henderson, an Intimacy and Sexuality Coach to help us understand the powerful connection between sexuality & empowerment. 

Episode Transcript

Roma: Charlie is an intimacy and sexuality coach and her goal is to liberate women and non-binary individuals from the shame would feel around our power and our sexuality. By guiding her clients through body compassion, sexual expression, voice, and identity empowerment, among many other methods. They discover their deep relationship with themselves. Welcome to the show, Charlie. 

Charlie: Hello, thank you for such a sweet introduction. You covered it all. 

From Yoga to Intimacy Coach

ROMA: Around two to three years ago, while I was processing my grief because I lost my mom, I discovered Yoga TX. It’s a YouTube channel that offers yoga classes and you’re one of the instructors. Because I loved your classes. I followed you on Instagram, which is like a bit stalk-ey. And you recently announced that, you will have a new journey and that is the intimacy and empowered being an intimacy and empowerment coach. If I may. What made you decide to do the transition?

CHARLIE: I’ve had a wild path of careers and different things. I used to actually dance professionally. I studied ballet for 20 years and did that, professionally after university and then found yoga, dove into meditation, Eastern philosophy. I became pretty obsessed with all of that and started teaching yoga full-time. I was teaching on YouTube with Yoga TX, and teaching all of over Austin and then Portland. Through that whole journey, I knew that I wanted to be doing something more.

I loved teaching yoga. And at first I thought that was my path. But eventually I found out that I really liked working with people one-on-one like with private clients and healing the body and the mind, but I noticed so much within myself, just this deep discomfort with my sexuality and in yogaic philosophy, one of their paths to enlightenment is celibacy.

– Charlie Henderson

I studied with Padma karma yoga in India and my teacher Padma, she always says, yes, celibacy is one thing. And that’s for, like, monks and there is the householder path. So yes, you can be having kids and having some form of sexuality, but it wasn’t something that was really talked about.

And even as I was studying in India. I just noticed there was still like some shame in the culture around like women’s bodies and even like menstruation, you can’t go to temple if you’re menstruating all these different things. Which I totally respect within that religion, but it just kept bringing up a lot around women’s empowerment specifically for me and then it pretty much ended up. I was just feeling super stuck in my own sexuality. I felt so uncomfortable. I didn’t really know how to express myself. I lost my libido. I was so lost and I started opening up to more friends about it.

And so many people, especially women and non-binary individuals were saying. “Yeah, I feel the same way.” I think that’s just how it goes if you’re in a long-term relationship or I think that being unsatisfied with sex and just lit this fire in me that was, that knew that I wanted to be helping people with this.

…the tantric philosophy believes that deep presence with pleasure and sexuality is one tiny piece to the path of enlightenment.

– Charlie Henderson

And as the universe works within a couple of months, I landed myself in a tantra workshop class, where we were diving deep into all these different tantric techniques, which is the philosophy is very similar to yoga. And a lot of it is intertwined. But the tantric philosophy believes that deep presence with pleasure and sexuality is one tiny piece to the path of enlightenment.

I think a lot of people believe that tantra is just like all about sex and it’s actually not at all. It’s missing one piece of it. And so that’s a long-winded way of saying I had felt really uncomfortable with it. So I wanted to help others feel more comfortable. 

ROMA: I think the people are just focusing on the sexual part of it (tantra) it’s a good thing that you pointed out that it’s just a teeny tiny part of; it’s part of the journey of your enlightenment and being empowered. That’s why I’m really excited for, and at the same time, a bit scared to talk about this because I feel like I don’t know anything of course it’s whatever I know about sexuality and intimacy. It’s based on magazines. It’s all about, pleasuring the partner and not yourself. The (Asian) culture is very reserved and to do this is very bold. It’s a bold move for me. We’re here to educate people.

Charlie: I well, first off celebrating you and bringing this topic to your show because I was so scared to dive into this and be like publicly, like I’m a sex coach. Hope everyone’s okay with that.

Roma: This has been mentioned in your other podcast guestings, that when it comes to, sexuality and intimacy, It’s still, somewhat, a taboo subject to discuss openly and I totally agree. Especially for us in Asia or Asian culture, but I believe that we have to talk about it because in order to empower ourselves, we have to continuously educate and discover ourselves.

Can you help us understand the difference of sexuality and intimacy because you use it separately? And why is it important to understand these words? 

Sexuality & Intimacy

Charlie: Yeah. Thank you for that question. And we can speak to the taboo-ness too. With, I believe sexuality is such a huge umbrella.

Sexuality can be who you are attracted to. Different people have different sexualities. It’s a huge spectrum. Sexuality can also be the way that you express yourself through the way that you dress or the way that you interact with people. Emily Nagoski, who wrote Come As You Are says, there’s many sexualities as there are humans on earth. And so it’s this huge, broad thing that I can pretend to define, but I’m not going to, even try because it’s going to look so different for everyone. 

But intimacy. I believe intimacy is such a beautiful way to interact with life. And intimacy to me is having a deep presence with everything you experienced, you can be intimate, of course, with other human beings, you can be very intimate with yourself, but you can also be. For example, like intimate with the five senses, you can be intimate with what you’re smelling when you really stop and smell a rose. It can be like a really beautiful intimate moment. You can be intimate with what you’re feeling or hearing and music and art. There’s so many things that you can be intimate with in a very non-sexual way. If that makes sense. 

Roma: I love that. For example, in the morning you pour your first cup of coffee, like you’re very intimate With your senses, that you really smell the aroma of the coffee. Of the beans, while, pouring out water and then it’s giving out the smell the very essence of the coffee. So that is in a form. Like, I’m very intimate with this activity and I love everything about. 

Platonic Intimacy

Charlie: Yes, exactly. And I love the idea too, of even like platonic intimacy. Like many of my friends we’ll hang out and hold hands or cuddle and it can be this beautiful intimate experience or your mother or daughter or anything, it can be a very beautiful, intense level of intimacy without it having to be sexual. And most of the time, yeah, in those settings, it’s not. 

Roma: So you can be intimate to the world or to the events in your life, but sexuality is how you express yourself and who you’re attracted to. Is that, did I get that right? 

Charlie: Yeah, definitely. I would say expressing who you attracted to, but also just expressing. Your definition of sexuality even. Yeah. And that can be through sex of course. And being intimate physically with someone or, yeah, it can just be self-expression. 

Sexual Blockage

Roma: Can we say that intimacy issues is the same with sexual blockage

Charlie: I’m going to reframe because I don’t like the word issue or because so often in our society where, well, I, it makes sense that you said it that way, because coming back to the taboo newness, we are taught so often in patriarchal society that something is wrong with us and we are broken.

Many of us think that if something. slightly different from anyone else that’s an issue. Or if I don’t look exactly like them, I’m broken. Versus….there – I like the word blockages, like there’s some resistance or there some blockages to intimacy or sexuality. I would say blockages around intimacy and sexual blockages can be very intertwined, but they can also be separate.

– Charlie Henderson

I think what I see most often in clients is when it comes to sexual blockages, there’s some deep pain that’s has not been fully seen, has not been fully expressed and needs to have permission to be moved through in order for the client to be sexually expressed, I would say intimacy issues could be somewhat of the same thing, but instead of it being in a sexual setting, it could be not knowing how to simply be vulnerable, not knowing how to go deep with someone or knowing how to open up.

Roma: Is it possible that you have blockages or if I may use the word intimacy issues, but the person has sexuality? And also are there signs that I can figure out? Okay. maybe I have intimacy issues and what is probably the best, first step to address. 

Charlie: I love this question. So I’m just going smush sexual and intimacy, like blockages together for this example. I would say, I feel like the first sign is just discomfort or unsatisfaction, like so often. And that’s how I noticed it in myself. It was like, I was just feeling unsatisfied. I was feeling unsatisfied in myself. I was feeling unsatisfied and uncomfortable with my body. I felt uncomfortable with my sexuality.

It feels like a disconnection, especially if it was once connected. I think sometimes. And I talked about this a lot and the 30-day challenge on YouTube,that so ften we think we have to look outside of ourselves to find the answer versus, “oh, I’m noticing that I feel very differently around sexuality than I used to.”

There’s gotta be some blockages going on. Unfortunately, because our society is still so uncomfortable as a whole, the sexuality, especially because of religion and just different philosophies of life. I think that many people are raised with these blockages and they’re implanted before they even have a chance to connect with their sexuality and understand what having a thriving sexuality looks like.

So it can be, it can feel like disconnection. It can also just feel like not knowing a part of yourself. And I would say the other way to know is also just numbness. If you’re not able to feel. A lot of pleasure within your [00:15:00] body, within your relationship, whether that’s simply joy or happiness, or it could be sexual as in sexual pleasure, I would say that’s another way to know.

Honestly, the biggest thing that I realised, I was reading books. I was listening to all the podcasts. I was doing all the things to try to learn how to help myself with my blockages and my discomfort, but it wasn’t until I started actually having teachers and actually having someone guide me that I was able to figure out a lot.

It’s a really, in my opinion, again, this is just my own experience. It’s a very hard thing to do on your own because it already feels so isolated because we’re told that sexuality looks a certain way for everyone. And it already feels really isolating if we don’t fit into that group. So having a teacher or a guide is a really great way to not only feel more connected to a community around it. It’s also a way to just feel. Like you don’t have to do it on your own.

Roma: You have to ask help from the professionals so that they can actually figure out what’s wrong. Otherwise, there’s a personal bias that sometimes you don’t want to admit that maybe I’m just over reacting. Maybe I’m just overthinking, I’m not able to feel this. I’m not able to do this. I’m not able to enjoy the intimacy. But the, maybe the moment that they realise that they are having a disconnect, then it’s also a chance to, if they have a partner, talk about it. Probably that’s one good step because let’s admit it –

People are not so open with this ideas that, whenever they hear that “I’m having problems with my relationship.” They don’t want to talk about it because it’s a very vulnerable part of their life we don’t want to admit that there is something wrong with us. It’s okay to have issues, admitting that there is something wrong with us.. We don’t like that. 

– Roma Miclat

Charlie: Yeah. That, and that’s what I love so much about tantra is that in that philosophy, like there is no good and bad emotion. There is no good or bad personality trait. It’s all a part of the human experience. And the more that we label things good and bad, the more we’re going to repress and reject the bad, which then in turn, those things are typically, subconsciously, controlling our lives.. And the more that we start embracing those parts of us, a lot of this can be like through shadow work, which is like a Jung psychology.

The more that we are able to embrace our full selves. If we are trying to fit into this perfect box of what society has deemed “appropriate” so that’s. Generosity, joy, happiness, pleasure, all these things Those are good qualities. So that’s what your identity should look like. The more that we try to [00:18:00] fit into that box, the less we’re showing up as ourselves.

But the more that we start getting to know our jealousy and our fear and our sadness and our anxiety. The more that we actually get to know ourselves. And I always say if you want to know, pleasure, get to know fear. If you want to know joy, get to know your sadness because. It’s the yin and yang and the balance of life.

Roma: I totally agree. We say that you should not avoid sadness otherwise you cannot enjoy full happiness. You cannot say that I’m really happy now or I’m content if you haven’t experienced scarcity in your life or sadness, It’s opposites and the absence or the presence of this, negative emotion makes you appreciate the happy emotion. If you haven’t felt that, how can you say “Oh, this is what happiness means” or, “oh, this is what satisfaction means,”right? It’s it’s part of the process. You have to experience it so that you can go to the next thing. 

QUESTION: Is it possible to have a family, have kids, but never experienced the sexual pleasure?

Roma: Because again, what this society is expecting from us is…. Okay. You will be raised you, you will study, you’ll go through puberty. You’ll find a partner. You will get married or, start your own family, have kids because that’s what life is supposed to be. 

That’s why, the reception of the society, at least right now, that when couples decide not to have kids, there’s a mix of reaction. Or for example, when a woman doesn’t want to have kids and we both were like why what’s wrong with you?

Is it possible to be like what the society is expecting you to be, but you’re having sexual blockages. It was like, wait, I’m functioning correctly, I think?

Charlie: Oh totally. I think most. I have, I can say this whole heartedly, I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone that has never had any discomfort around their sexuality, whether that’s figuring out who actually they are attracted to or what they desire or what they like.

I think most people go through life. Again, you’re a child and you’re taught these things around sexuality and virginity, and then you go through puberty and you figure that out on your own. And then you had adulthood and then yeah, a lot of people go to school, get married, have kids do that path.

And I think it’s very easy to not know that there’s so much more pleasure to be had. And I think that what I’m studying right now is this mix of trauma healing and also neurobiology. And I think that so many people forget that like the primal brain that, that like hunters, the brain of ours that is often like the fight flight or freeze, that part of us is often like unconcerned with sexual.

It’s just I’m trying to help you survive. That is my lowest concern right now. And so often, like you said, I’m doing the things I have the family, all their needs are met. I’m fine. So I think you also spoke to it earlier around if you’ve never had deep sadness, how can you have deep pleasure and vice versa if you’ve never experienced extremely orgasmic, amazing, beautiful intimacy. It might not feel like you’re missing out on much. But when you start to get to know parts of yourself and really get clear on what it is that you need and desire in a sexual sense, I think that there’s a lot more area for growth and expansion. 

On Sexual Awakening

Roma: So sexual awakening can happen. It doesn’t have an age limit? 

Charlie: Oh my gosh. No. I have had clients who are like 24 and I’ve had clients who are 70, like in their seventies, it can happen at any age. Oh yes. And it’s, and I’ve seen it, not only just in my clients, but also like with many people that I’ve gone to school with and met through different trainings. Yeah. It can happen. Literally at any time in your life, as long as you really desire that. Yeah.

Roma: As long as you’re open to actually explore that part of your life. And that’s amazing, Wow. I can just imagine the self-empowerment of those people who actually discovered it. And if you’re listening to this and you feel that you’re also experiencing, sexual blockages or you have intimacy issues, don’t worry because I want to use your word, Charlie.

How can you say that you’re empowered if you cannot fully express yourself. That’s very ironic, in my opinion.

– Roma Miclat

Sometimes there are issues that needs to be discussed or that needs to be sorted out so that you can openly and and you can be willingly express yourself. Like how can you say that you’re empowered if you cannot fully express yourself. That’s very ironic, in my opinion.

Charlie: Yeah. And that’s a big piece of a lot of the work that I do is that first off what you just said. For anyone who’s listening and thinks, oh my gosh, I might have some blockages around You are so not alone. You’re so not alone. And that’s why I do intimacy and empowerment because I also agree. I think that it’s very hard to be fully yourself, fully authentically expressing yourself, but feel uncomfortable in your sexuality.

I think that sexuality is such a big piece that has been oppressed in most societies. And when you are able to really step into your expression of sexuality, whatever that looks like, it’s a very empowering experience. 

– Charlie Henderson

Roma: Reality is. Even in your own home, sometimes, you can’t be yourself, We have different hats that we wear. We are employees. We are sons or daughters to our parents. We are sisters or brothers to our siblings. We’re a partner. We’re a mother. And then there is a very little time with yourself just to breathe what we’re saying here is that it’s totally okay.

through self-discovery, we’re always evolving and changing

If you haven’t figured it out at this moment, maybe you’ve you found out about this? You discovered this episode because somewhat, you’re also thinking wait, I think, I’m having issues in all because I cannot express myself. And that’s okay, because this is probably the first step to discovering yourself, finding time and giving time to understand yourself. And sometimes it takes a while for you to discover yourself. But congratulations because you are starting to discover yourself. 

Charlie: Exactly. I know that I will be discovering myself till the day that I die. have, I think there’s this misconception that as an intimacy and empowerment coach, I had my struggle. And then I figured it out.  I have a lot of knowledge in this field now, and I have 10% of my sexuality figured out it is still a process of peeling back the layers and learning about myself and through life, through self discovery, we’re always evolving and changing. And so our sexuality is always evolving and changing.

Our definition of what is authentic is always evolving and changing. And so knowing that there’s the path to getting to know yourself is absolutely non-linear. There’s no linear path of, I start here. Here’s a, I got to get to be able to just go on this straight. Now. It’s like this winding road. Up into the mountains, down into the valley slowly figuring it out.

Roma: Do you think a person’s religion or beliefs can attribute to sexual blockage? For example, the practice of self-pleasure or masturbation is considered a sin in most religions and because it drives guilt to people its as if we’re not allowed to discover sexual pleasure. So what are your thoughts on that? 

Charlie: Every single one of my clients that I’ve worked with, we’ve had to have some touch on religion and what belief systems they were raised with, because most of people’s sexual repression or sexual blockages, I believe are based off of societal and religious norms. So much shame is instilled on us at a very young age that if we express ourselves sexually, we will. Fill in the religion, but like pretty much die and burn in hell. We are this version of ourselves, like truly and of course it’s different for men and women. A lot of the times.

I believe that. I personally, again, I’ll bring this back to myself cause I can’t speak for everyone. I grew up with the idea that if I lost my virginity, I was hopeless and useless if I did it before marriage, 

Roma: You’re a damaged good. No one will take you seriously. That’s how they framed it before oh, and you have to, for reserve yourself, if not, you will not have a good life. I respect that. It’s just that for me, I just think that it’s important that you don’t limit also yourself because the world is changing. It’s okay to be guided, but not tell people that, you will not have a good life if you’re not a virgin. 

Charlie: Exactly. it’s a very, I don’t. I don’t understand the logic behind [00:28:00] holding onto virginity. I don’t, I just don’t understand that, but I definitely understand the logic behind oppressing people’s sexualities when people are very connected to their sexualities and expressed in their sexualities, especially in a patriarchal society that is viewed as a threat because that person has power.

And especially if that person is a woman, it’s an amount of power that’s pretty hard to handle for most people and pretty hard to mess with. I have other words that I wanted to use, where I was like pretty hard to mess with. And I think that through oppressing that part of people. The, I hate to say it, but like the men in charge have been able to stay there.

And I think that the more that we move away from that idea and the more that people become expressed, the more voices that will be able to be heard, but also the more inclusivity and diversity will keep spreading throughout the world. 

Roma: I keep saying this, the society is evolving and they are recognising the boldness of women, not just women, but the strong gender identity of people. It’s not just the men who can be at the top of their game. for women, if they find someone who’s bold who can speak her mind if that’s a man, he is a powerful man, but if it’s a woman, she’s a bitch. 

Charlie: Exactly. 

Roma: He’s strong. He’s powerful. He knows what he wants, but if it’s a woman who knows what she wants, it’s either she fierce or a bitch. 

Charlie: Yes. That’s, what’s interesting. It’s like the same thing in sexuality. My teacher actually taught a whole lesson on this. sexuality is such a primal experience when you really get down and get to the root of your expression. Very primal. It’s very raw. It’s very, kind of, messy sometimes. And the primal expression in the past of a man is the [00:30:00] warrior. It’s the Wolverine, it’s the power and primal, animalistic. But the primal expression of a woman is a witch or is someone who’s crazy or someone who’s satanic when a woman expressing herself privately or screaming it’s terrifying.

But when a man does it, it’s powerful. We have to remember that is just, what’s been taught. That is absolutely not the truth. And the truth is that we all hold that power. And this goes for all genders. I believe everyone should be expressed in their sexuality. And I think all genders should not have to fit into any kind of box.

There’s plenty of people who are not this toxic representation of a man and there’s plenty of women who absolutely don’t identify with being feminine. And there’s now a beautiful ,much more coming to the surface, community that doesn’t identify with either gender and has their own expressions.

So remembering that this has all been taught purposefully to oppress the expression of all people.

Roma: I love what you said that you don’t have to fit in a box regardless of your gender, regardless of your choice. I love that, but it’s so sad that we still have to continue saying it because it’s still not, it’s still not a normal thing in a world where we’re existing right now.

Understanding your sexuality leads to a self-empowerment

Charlie: I believe that being in touch with your sexuality and being fully expressed in your sexuality, leads to empowerment. Because it’s already an active rebellion. You’re already going against what you’ve been taught is the quote unquote norm. So you’re already stepping out you’ve broken down the box, which is extremely empowering in a lot of ways.

You’ve gotten out of this container that society has set for you and you’ve started your own path. And I think that is the human experiences, finding your own uniqueness. And exploring it on your own. And I think sexual exploration is such an empowering piece as well, because you get to define what it looks like.

[There’s no right or wrong way of doing it. And it’s a way for you to deeply very vulnerably step into pleasure as well. I think that. Even though happiness and joy and pleasure are deemed appropriate by society. Brené Brown always says joy is one of the most vulnerable experiences. And the more that you give yourself permission to be in pleasure and to be sexually expressed and to be in your power. The deeper you get to know yourself and the deeper you can serve others. 

[00:40:51] I promise you I will not leave anything behind. Okay. This has been another episode of Empowered Talks. Thank [00:41:00] you. And stay safe everyone until my next episode. Bye.

Roma: it’s, self-empowering because it’s your choice for yourself and choosing something that makes you happy, that makes you excited. That fills you as a person. It’s so easy to say, do it for yourself choose this for yourself. But it’s one of the hardest things to do because we always consider the people around us. We always consider our family, our friends. What will other people say about us when we do this. We have a lot of distractions that it keeps the joy away from us. 

Charlie: Really loved when you said that it’s choosing yourself. And that is why I think it is so empowering. I think that was one of the biggest lessons learned. The beginning of my kind of spiritual path is that I used to think it was so selfish to focus on myself. And when I was doing my yoga teacher training this piece just came through. Oh, if I take time to be, I call it now self full, instead of selfish.

If I take time to be self-full, I can then become selfless. But if I am only giving, I’ll just be drained and I’ll be giving from an empty cup. So that’s a big reason why I think it’s so empowering to explore this. 

Roma: This is my biggest question because after everything that we’ve discussed, if understanding sexuality is so empowering, Why do you think our society is still shaming us for being so bold about it. Why is there a struggle or resistance to, fully embrace this concept? 

Charlie: I feel like it always comes back to the patriarchy, which I hate, but it’s so true. I think it’s just… it’s painful for people who think in a traditional way. To see others fully expressed because they have so much repressed. I think that when people fully step into their pleasure and fully step into their power. It’s extremely intimidating for people who have never gotten to experience that. And instead of looking to those people and asking, show me how you got here, show me how I can be as expressed as you that is too vulnerable for so many that instead, they deny them the right to do so.

They, in the past, have killed them for doing so. They make laws against expression and human rights around sexuality. And so that’s why I think that society is still doing that. And. Many religions [00:36:00] were created by men as well. And to have anyone, but men be sexually expressed is a threat because people who are so deeply consciously in a very. compassionate way expressing their sexuality. I believe, holds some of the most power because they are in tune with their inner joy and inner consciousness. And that. Scares the hell out of people. 

Roma: I’m also hopeful at the same time that, in the next 10 years, we will have a different dialogue. Who knows, right? 5, 10 years from now, we will have another episode and I can invite you back to the show. Hopefully I’m still podcasting. And I hope that it’s going to be a different conversation. There are no more resistance. Or maybe less resistance by that time, 

Self-Love.

This is just one of the channels that we can educate people and help them understand sexuality and how they can empower themselves. But you know what, even if you remove the sexual part the base of this is loving yourself. Self-love.

It’s honoring yourself, respecting yourself, setting boundaries. Discovering that, okay, this is what I want, and I’m going to do this because this is what I like. 

Charlie: Exactly. Yeah. It all comes. I think it truly all comes down to just accepting exactly where you are and then having the awareness of where you want to be growing and where you want to go. And it is tough that we do have to speak about this, and it’s also such an honor, and I really want to give reverence to all the lineages of people who have made it possible to be able to hop on a podcast at any point and talk about sexuality and be two women talking about this openly and know that we will be safe.

And so even though it’s hard and it’s not where it needs to be, I feel so grateful to everyone that’s worked so hard to make, even just this moment.  We will not be burned at the city square after this!

Roma: We will not be tied at the Plaza. 

Charlie: Exactly. And like truly, there’s so many powerful women and men and just people in general, who’ve been able to make the progress that has happened so far. So we’re on the right path. And I think we’re, I think we’re heading in the right direction and with change and growth, there’s always resistance, just like internal work, 

Roma: and this is just scratching off the surface there are a lot of ways to educate yourself and there is Charlie, if you want to be coached and you want to understand yourself better.

to those who want to understand their sexuality…

If anyone is interested in like having any guidance or help, I would love to talk. I’m an open book and I am part of a very huge network that if I cannot help you with what you’re struggling with, I can find you someone who can, but if even if that feels too intimidating or scary, what I would recommend is just starting with a great book. I have a ton of book recommendations and there’s tons of books out there around sexual empowerment.

And that’s a great way to just be able to privately be exploring this without having to reach out to anyone. But I think that just remembering that you’re not alone in feeling shameful about this, it’s not your fault that you feel shameful about this. The seed was planted before you even had a choice, probably. Knowing that if you were interested in exploring this, part of yourself, you have every right. And it is an extremely valid desire and you deserve it. 

Roma: This is you choosing yourself. This you saying, I am opening myself because I want to be empowered. Maybe it’s for the first time you are choosing yourself. 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

GUEST PROFILE: CHARLIE HENDERSON

As an intimacy + empowerment coach, Charlie supports individuals who are feeling stuck in their sex life to have more fulfilling and passionate sex.

Charlie has always been passionate about human connection, relationships, and sexuality. After years of professional dancing, she found herself on the path of yoga, philosophy, and meditation. Through yoga, she began experiencing a deep liberation in her body and soul. She realized she had spent most of her life feeling uncomfortable within her body, which resulted in deep discomfort in her sexuality. 

Soon after, she began diving into the world of tantra, which led to many powerful breakthroughs in her relationship with herself, her body, and her sexuality. She knew she had to spread this knowledge to women and non-binary individuals. She currently works 1:1 with clients in her program specifically designed to help liberate individuals in their relationship with themselves as well as their partner(s). 

Charlie is currently training with the Tantric Insitute of Integrated Sexuality, led by Layla Martin, which blends the realms of neuroscience, tantra, as well as sex, love, and relationship coaching.

Website: charlie-henderson.com 
Instagram: charliehenderson_coaching