5 Signs That You Need to Break Up With Your Friends

While I am aware that not all romantic relationships are meant to last, I had a different perspective when it comes to friendship. Naive, I know, but I thought it was possible to be friends with everyone and keep it together until we get old and gray. But like any relationship, some are not meant to last and some are meant to be ended. So how do we know when it’s time to leave the friendship and go on with our own lives?

Here are some telltales that maybe it is time to break up with your friend/s:

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1. The Users.

These are the people who contact you only when they need to ask some favors and as a good friend, you willingly and wholeheartedly help them. But when it’s your turn to ask for some small help, they suddenly don’t respond to your messages or simply become unreachable.

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2. Liar, Liar!

best of friends

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To start with, who wants to be lied to? No one, right? But no one is perfect and some little white lies may be forgivable especially when they explain why they did it. HOWEVER! If they become frequent liars then that is something worth considering. Worse is when they continue lying to your face, even though they were already busted.

Regardless of the type of relationship that you have, I believe that honesty will always be an important element and must be valued at all times. This may take time but at some point, you will realize that the lack of sincerity in the relationship is not a good indication of a lasting bond.

3. They don’t give any kind of support to you.


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When you were down, did they give some time to listen? That time when you achieved something, where they happy for you? Did they support and not judge your decisions?

At times when we cannot physically be there to support our friends, there are still ways to let them know we care. After all, this is the age of technology and social media and everything is possible. Agree? 😀

If there’s a will, there’s always a way.

4. When you are treated as an option.


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Need I say more?

5. When you cannot be yourself when you are with them.

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Do you struggle to keep up just to be accepted? The truth is real friends accept you for who you really are because real friends see the person and not the brands you wear or the amount of money you have.

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It may be sad that some of our friendships are no longer the same as they used to be, but we have to accept that people change. Everybody changes. And as we move on with our lives, we have to cut some ties simply because they no longer help us grow. Life is too short to spend it with the wrong people.

And as I end my post, I wanted to share this piece, originally written by José Micard Teixeira:

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me.

I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”

xoxo berryduchess

25 thoughts on “5 Signs That You Need to Break Up With Your Friends

  1. I actually have never been lucky with friends or relationships, somehow I’ve learnt to be my own friend, that way drama and pain is reduced.

  2. Consider yourself lucky. The ones that disappear left a message for you too, something to learn. And now they’re gone. You no longer have to deal with them. The real friends are still there and will always be.

  3. You know i think i suffer the same. Lol! At times when i watch too much Sex and the City or FRIENDS or whatever series where the characters have best friends or group of people they always hang out with, i feel a bit sad that i grew up not having a BFF. I wonder if it was my fault, too. Then i console myself that what I’m watching are fictional characters.

  4. I have often had angst about friendships, I think I have read too many chic lit novels that have left me feeling a bit like a friendless outcast! Perhaps it is just me – I have friendships: people that I care about and spend time with, but they bear little resemblance to the deep connections I read about or see in films. In the end I simply just let go of the fantasy and enjoy the reality for what it is. I wonder if anyone else has the same?

  5. Reblogged this on imanikingblog and commented:
    I’m not planning to break up with the friends I have presently, but its a good read and everyone needs to shapen up or take a walk :). Thanks Berryduchess

  6. Indeed, it was nastier then my break-up with my ex-husband but when dealing with women… I simply stepped away but she was horrid. Oh well, her loss because I’m fabulous and now she’ll never know the friend she could have had! 🙂

  7. And lucky me only a few years ago managed to get “intertwined” with a person who had all five of these traits… talk about a nasty piece of work. Talk about a steep learning curve, it still makes my stomach heave when I think of them.

  8. It has always been hard for me to make friends for some reason. Keeping friends has been a problem too. I really hope I have never used anyone or made them to feel like they are not valuable. Perhaps its just me being myself and thinking for myself and they can’t handle that.

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